Tips to Feel More Body-Positive (Quickly)

Hi team,

I'm actually coping okay with the weight gain at the moment. I can actually feel some clarity coming back into my mind, which is wonderful; I'm sleeping most nights, and the bodies I once aspired to now seem too thin, as does my own body whilst I'm still weight restoring.

I never thought I'd say any of that.

But here we are.

Anywho, I still get not-so positive days. It's to be expected. And it's okay. The main thing is to have a healthy outlet, one that doesn't involve losing weight or punishing myself. These tips may not work for everyone, but they've been handy for me on what I refer to as "the black days".

When you look in the mirror and don't like what you see...

Do a silly dance, or pull a funny face
Say something silly (you might feel like an idiot, but I find it pretty difficult to be sad if I'm repeatedly saying "Boopity boop", or "Fluffy kittens")
Make a list of the top 10 things your body does for you that make you happy (e.g. hugging a partner, drawing, driving etc.)
Exercise, but lightly - yoga, for instance, makes me appreciate what my body can do
Change into your favourite outfit
Meet a friend, but not one who you see as 'thinspiration' or any other form of competition (alternatively you could choose a family member) - anyone who will take your mind off of things
Walk to a public place - you will see so many different shapes and sizes
Buy some new clothes, if the ones you currently have don't make you feel good
Find another outlet, e.g. playing with a pet, or doing a crossword
Trust in the process; I promise you that, as you gain weight, your mind catches up. You will not feel this bad forever :)

That's all for today. I really hope you're all doing well, and please keep believing in yourselves. It's certainly a long road, but all the best things are.

- A

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